The Art of Lonliness
Loneliness is the catalyst to some of our worst thoughts and feelings and during this period of isolation as you can imagine there’s a lot of it going around. we try and ignore it when the sun begins to set and the outside world quietens for the evening, but much like its good friend anxiety, loneliness is always lurking, ready to whisper us to sleep.
In an age of hyper communication, it seems now more than ever we truly understand the adverse implications of isolation, and the reality of anti-socialism in social media.
However, as we scramble for true human connection, there are those like myself that look to undermine it. Whether its late-night booty calls or midday butt dials, our need for company outweighs much of everything else lately. So, here is to the small wins of an introvert during these times.
So, here’s to the ex you broke up with two years ago, that calls just to check in and see how your mum is doing, and here’s to the friends from work who that makes sure you stay update on the latest quarantine memes. Or the neighbour that waves over the fence for a quick chat while you garden, and the cashier at Tesco that laughs with you while you scan your latest four bottles of Dettol disinfectant. Here’s to the Amazon Delivery guy that you’re now on a first name basis with after many nights of online shopping. Here’s to all those that make us feel seen in this dark time, that reach into our moments of isolation and let us know that we are all going through this together.
As we take this time to reflect and reconnect, let’s take a moment to appreciate the small gift of humanity that are all around us. So, as Thursday nears and we prepare to clap for our essential workers, let’s take a moment to remember the community of people and loved ones that are around us. I find philosopher Lao Tzu puts it best when he says that “Ordinary men hate solitude. But the master makes use of it, embracing his aloneness, realising his is one with the whole universe”. So if you are feeling alone and anxious during this time remember you are valued and loved, and the world is waiting for you to just reach out and connect.